How Do You Create a Happy Home?

Your baby has arrived, and both you and your spouse are relieved and overjoyed. Even as the family celebrates, there are two areas that require your attention – bonding with your child and nurturing your own mental well-being. Here’s a look at these two areas. 

Bond With Your Child 

It is important that you and your spouse spend quality time with your child. No matter how busy you are with your work, it is important to make time for your child. Give him/her your undivided attention and unconditional love. As parents, you play an important role to nurture, teach and provide a safe and secure environment so that he grows up to be a confident, positive and happy child. 

Here are some tips on how to build a strong, happy, and lasting relationship with your little one. 

Activities 

Find different ways to engage your child and expose him to different age appropriate activities so that he can expand his thinking, communication, social and creative skills, as well as improve his motor skills. Through fun and games, your child will learn to overcome obstacles and solve problems, which are critical in building his resilience as he grows up. Activities like board games, sports, or home activities like cake or cookie-making session, and simple chores like picking up the toys and folding clothes can have a positive influence on his/her life. Avoid exposing your child to excessive electronic games or media time. Find out more about screen use for your child.   

Outdoor fun 

Nature is a great source of stimulation and learning for your child. Grow plants with your little one or take him to the park or to the beach and educate him on the wonders of the natural environment. That way, he gets to enjoy the sun, fresh air, learn and bond with you at the same time. Spending more time outdoors can also protect him against myopia. 

Reading together 

Reading is one of the best activities you can enjoy with your child. Not only do you spend quality time together, you can also enhance your child’s learning capacity and inculcate good values as you read to them regularly. 

Discipline 

Find the right balance in playing the roles of a parent, a teacher and a friend to your child. While it is essential to have a set of rules or limits to govern your child’s behaviour, it is important to build a trusting relationship with your child so that he feels comfortable confiding in you about his problems. 

Consistent rules in the family provide a secure environment for the child to learn what is right and what is wrong. It reduces the conflicts between parents when it comes to disciplinary measures for your child. Your child will also not be confused when there are clear rules and boundaries for him/her to follow.

Positive reinforcement helps your child grow up to be a confident adult. Therefore, it is important to give your child immediate feedback about his/her bad behaviour and praise your child when he/she behaves well. 

Choices 

Engage your child by letting him/her choose which story to read, what outfit to wear, what to eat and where to go. However, do not give him too many choices; young children can get confused very easily when that happens. Instead, offer your child two alternatives.

Benefits for your child 

When parents make a conscientious effort to bond and establish a positive relationship with their child, this supports his/her healthy emotional and social development. Hence your child: 

  • Becomes independent 
  • Makes positive decisions 
  • Applies good social skills 
  • Becomes a team player 
  • Is able to communicate effectively 
  • Learns to solve problems
  • Is positive and confident 
  • Enhances his motor skills 
  • Respects and appreciates discipline 
  • Adopts good behaviour 

Nurture Your Own Mental Well-being 

Both you and your spouse’s mental well-being have an impact on your little one. If you are stressed, angry or depressed, your child will sense it. If you react negatively towards him, it can cause him distress. If you are positive and happy, your child can feel it and he is likely to feel more secure and assured. Thus, it is important to know what your triggers are and find ways to manage your stress or anger. 

Here are some ways that you and your spouse can foster mental wellness for yourselves and be good role models to your child: 

Lead a healthy lifestyle 

  • Have three balanced, nutritious meals a day. 
  • If you need an energy boost in between meals, snack on healthier options such as fruits, vegetable sticks and nuts. Ideally, you should have at least two servings of fruits and two servings of vegetables daily. 
  • Drink water regularly to hydrate your body. 
  • Exercise regularly. 
  • Avoid alcohol and tobacco products. 

Nurture yourself 

  • Aim for at least seven hours of sleep a night. 
  • Maintain a work-life harmony.
  • Take time to do the things that you enjoy or find a new hobby.
  • Step back to reflect on your life and make changes if necessary.

Manage your time 

  • Use a diary or a calendar to keep track of important occasions and appointments. 
  • Plan and prioritise your daily activities with a to-do list. 
  • Set realistic goals and reasonable expectations. 
  • Schedule time for your family and yourself. 
  • Unload unnecessary tasks and learn to say “no”. 

Practise good coping skills 

Seek or accept social support 

  • Talk it out. Share your troubles and worries with someone you trust. 
  • Reach out to the people you are close to. Make an effort to spend time with them. 
  • Make time to be with your spouse. Go on a date and do something fun and relaxing together. 
  • Get involved in community activities where you can meet new people. 
  • Seek professional help if necessary. 

Your child looks up to you as his/her role model. If you cultivate good healthy habits and coping skills, your child is more likely to follow suit. With a loving, safe and stable environment, your child will grow up healthy and happy.

Visit MindSG for more tools to take care of your mental well-being. 

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